Transcript: Extend-a-Family | Apr 13, 1988

[children's playful banter]

Three kids play in the snow.

Joan Reed-Olsen stands on a snow-covered field. She’s in her sixties, with short brown hair. She’s wearing glasses and a blue coat.

Joan says I'M JOAN REED-OLSEN.
THIS PROGRAM IS
ABOUT CHILDREN,
YOUNG PEOPLE, SINGLE
MOMS AND FAMILIES,
PEOPLE LIVING
IN THE COUNTRY,
IN THE SMALL VILLAGE
AND IN THE BIG CITY.
IT'S ALSO ABOUT
FRIENDSHIPS,
FRIENDSHIPS ORIGINATING
AND DEVELOPING WITHIN
THE CONCEPT:
EXTEND-A-FAMILY.
EXTEND-A-FAMILY, A SIMPLE,
WONDERFUL, SUCCESS STORY.

[laughing]
[happy chattering]

Anna is twelve years old. She has short blond hair and Down syndrome. She’s wearing a gray coat and a blue skirt. She rides a merry-go-round next to Wally.

The title of the show appears on screen. It reads "People Patterns."

Children play in a living room.

Christie is in her forties, with short blond hair. She’s wearing a colourful pullover.

Christie says RIGHT, WE ARE NOW IN OUR
11TH YEAR OF EXTEND-A-FAMILY.
WE CELEBRATED OUR
10TH ANNIVERSARY LAST YEAR
BY BECOMING INCORPORATED
NATIONWIDE.
IT STARTED IN THIS AREA,
ACTUALLY, BY A FAMILY -
TWO OR THREE FAMILIES
WHO HAD CHILDREN
WITH HANDICAPS AND
REALIZED THAT, GEE,
THE PHONE NEVER
RINGS FOR THOSE KIDS.

The title changes to "Extend-a-Family."

Christie continues WHY CAN'T WE DO SOMETHING
TO HELP THEM HAVE
SOME TYPE OF A SOCIAL
EXPERIENCE AND, BASICALLY,
IT STARTED AROUND A
KITCHEN TABLE 11 YEARS AGO.
THIS GROUP WENT BEYOND THE
KITCHEN TABLE AND STARTED
TO SEEK SUPPORT BOTH FROM
OTHER FAMILIES IN THEIR
COMMUNITIES ON A
VOLUNTEER BASIS,
BUT THEY NEEDED FUNDING.

A caption appears on screen. It reads "Christie Cass."

Christie continues AND THE FUNDING
CAME FROM THE MINISTRY
OF COMMUNITY AND SOCIAL
SERVICES AND THEY STILL
DO FUND OUR PROGRAM TO HELP
US CARRY ON OUR WORKS.
BUT WE HAVE A FUNDRAISING
PROJECT, AS WELL, EACH YEAR
TO SUPPLEMENT THE FUNDS
WE GET FROM THE MINISTRY.

The caption changes to "Lenny Menecola. Monica Lowe."

Monica and Lenny sit on a couch. Monica is in her twenties, with short curly blond hair. She’s wearing a red and blue cardigan and blue trousers.

Monica says IT STARTED OUT AS
A SCHOOL PLACEMENT.
I GO TO RYERSON
AND, AT THE TIME,
I WAS IN MY SECOND YEAR
AND WE STARTED OFF,
I WAS JUST DOING
COMMUNITY PROJECTS.
AND ONE OF THE
COORDINATORS APPROACHED ME
TO SEE IF I WOULD
TAKE ANNA OUT.
AND IT ORIGINATED
LIKE THAT.
SO SINCE THEN, I
FINISHED MY PLACEMENT
AND ANNA AND I CONTINUED
TO SEE EACH OTHER.

Lenny is in his twenties, clean-shaven with brown hair. He’s wearing a white sweater and a gray shirt.

Lenny says WELL, I WAS
MONICA'S BOYFRIEND...
[laughing]
AND ONE NIGHT MONICA SAID
WE'RE GOING TO GET ANNA
SO WE CAME AND GOT HER AND
TOOK HER OUT FOR DINNER
AND A SHOW AND
HERE WE ARE.

The caption changes to "Deanna and Wally Schaly."

Deanna and Wally sit in a living room. Deanna is in her twenties, with shoulder-length curly blond hair. She’s wearing a white sweater with a dark blue scarf and pink trousers.

Deanna says WHILE MONICA WAS
GOING TO SCHOOL,
SHE WAS LIVING WITH
ME, WE WERE ROOMMATES.
AND, ACTUALLY, LENNY
IS MY BROTHER,
SO WE'RE KIND OF LIKE
A LITTLE FAMILY.
I GUESS, THE FIRST
NIGHT MONICA TOOK HER OUT,
SHE BROUGHT HER HOME.
WE DIDN'T KNOW WHAT TO
EXPECT BUT EVER SINCE THEN,
IT'S BEEN THE
FOUR OF US.
IT'S BEEN A
LOT OF FUN.

Wally is in his twenties, with short brown hair and clean-shaven. He’s wearing a blue sweater and a white shirt.

Wally says WELL, I WAS GOING OUT
WITH DEANNA AT THE TIME,
OF COURSE, AND SO IT WAS
MORE OR LESS THE FOUR OF US
ALL TOGETHER ALL
AT THE SAME TIME.
SO ANNA JUST HAPPENED
INTO THE PICTURE
AND IT JUST CARRIED
ON FROM THERE.
WE FOUND THAT WE ENJOYED
HER SO MUCH THAT WE MADE SURE
THAT WE WERE AROUND WHEN
ANNA WAS COMING OVER
AND I'VE REALLY
ENJOYED IT.
ANNA'S BECOME MORE LIKE A
LITTLE SISTER TO US
RATHER THAN JUST AN
EXTEND-A-FAMILY CHILD.

Lenny, Monica, Deanna and Wally wait for Anna to leave a house while Kathy helps her put on her boots.

The caption changes to "Kathy Smyth." Kathy sits in a kitchen. She’s in her twenties, with shoulder-length brown hair. She’s wearing a light pink sweater.

Kathy says I HAD THOUGHT ABOUT WHAT
I WOULD DO IF I HAD
A RETARDED CHILD AND THAT
IF I HAD A RETARDED
OR HANDICAPPED CHILD I WOULD
CERTAINLY KEEP HIM OR HER HOME.
AND THE FIRST THING I
DID WAS TO GET HER OUT
OF THE HOSPITAL AND
TAKE HER TO A COTTAGE
WHERE I BEGAN TO JUST REACT
TO HER AS A NORMAL CHILD
AND I FELL IN
LOVE WITH HER.
AND I DIDN'T THINK OF HER
AS BEING ANY DIFFERENT
FOR QUITE A WHILE.
AND I THOUGHT TO MYSELF,
AM I DENYING THIS
OR AM I JUST
ENJOYING A PERSON?
AND I DECIDED IT DIDN'T
MATTER WHETHER
I WAS DENYING SOMETHING,
I HAD A REAL GIFT.
AND EVERYONE LOVED HER,
WHICH SURPRISED ME.
THAT'S THE BIGGEST SURPRISE
IS THAT PEOPLE LOVE HER.
I EXPECTED REJECTION
FROM THE WORD GO.
BUT, PEOPLE
ACTUALLY ENJOY HER
AND SEEK HER OUT.

Wally says YOU DON'T HAVE TO TREAT
ANNA ANY DIFFERENT
BECAUSE SHE IS A
HANDICAPPED CHILD,
TREAT HER THE
WAY SHE IS.
WE THOROUGHLY ENJOY HER
THE WAY SHE IS AND
THE THINGS SHE DOES.
AND I FIND WE DON'T HAVE
TO DO ANYTHING SPECIAL
TO ENTERTAIN HER.
I FIND SHE ENTERTAINS US
MORE THAN WE COULD
EVER ENTERTAIN HER.

The two couples take Anna to a toy store.

Monica says AT FIRST, SHE WAS QUIET
AND SHY AND NOW BECAUSE
SHE GETS TO KNOW US, AND
SHE DOES KNOW US BETTER,
SHE'S BEEN REALLY
OUTGOING.
AND WE'VE REALLY SEEN A
BIG CHANGE IN JUST
BETWEEN AGE 10 AND
AGE 11 AND
HER COORDINATION AND
THINGS LIKE THAT.

Deanna says I THINK EXTEND-A-FAMILY
IS WONDERFUL, BECAUSE IF
A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE LIKE
ME, THEY DON'T KNOW
WHAT TO EXPECT OUT OF
A HANDICAPPED CHILD.
WHEN MONICA FIRST SAID
SHE WAS TAKING ONE,
WE DIDN'T KNOW
WHAT TO EXPECT.
ACTUALLY, IT WAS
PRETTY SCARY.
BUT, ANNA'S GOT MO RE
CHARACTER THAN ANYBODY
I'VE EVER MET AND SHE'S
WITTY AND SHE
CAN ENTERTAIN YOU
JUST AS MUCH AS YOU
CAN ENTERTAIN HER;
SHE'S A LOT OF FUN.

[banging a drum]

Deanna says YOU LIKE THAT?

Anna says THIS ONE.

Monica says HOW ABOUT A
PINK FLAMINGO?

Anna says YEAH, THAT ONE.

Deanna says YOU WANT THIS?

Anna says YEAH.

Deanna says THAT'S ONLY 1 DOLLARS.
YOU STILL HAVE
4 DOLLARS TO SPEND.

Wally says YOU ARE A SMART
SHOPPER, ANNA.

Deanna says YEAH.

Christie says YOU COULDN'T POSSIBLY
PUT A DOLLAR SIGN
ON THE VOLUNTEER COMPONENT
BECAUSE THERE'S NO WAY
OF EVALUATING THE NUMBER OF
HOURS THAT GO IN TO EACH VISIT.
BECAUSE A CHILD IS NOT
JUST NECESSARILY VISITING
ON A ONE-TO-ONE;
THE WHOLE FAMILY
OR MAYBE AN EXTENDED
FAMILY IS INVOLVED.

The caption changes to "Kathy Kieffer. Co-ordinator." Kathy Kieffer stands in a park. She’s in her thirties, with short brown hair. She’s wearing earrings and a white jacket.

Kieffer says WE DO SOME PUBLIC
RECRUITING TO GET PEOPLE
INTERESTED IN HOSTING
IN THE PROGRAM.

The caption changes to "Extend-a-Family Walkerton."

She continues ONCE WE FIND A FAMILY OR
AN INDIVIDUAL WHO WANTS
TO BE INVOLVED IN HOSTING,
WE THEN INTERVIEW THEM
AND FIND OUT WHAT
THEIR INTERESTS ARE
AND WHAT THEY FEEL THEY
CAN COMMIT TO OUR PROGRAM.
WE THEN FIND AN
APPROPRIATE MATCH FOR THEM
WITHIN THEIR AREA SO THAT
THE DRIVING ISN'T TOO FAR.
AND WE BEGIN THE MATCH BY
TAKING THE NATURAL FAMILY
TO THE HOST'S HOME AND
HAVING AN INITIAL VISIT
AND THEY SEE FROM THAT
IF THEY'RE INTERESTED
IN CARRYING ON.

Debbi walks into her house next to Mike. She’s in her forties, with short dark hair. She’s wearing a white, blue and yellow sweater. Mike is nine years old. He has short brown hair. He’s wearing glasses and a white and blue long-sleeve shirt.

Debbi says WELL, WHEN I FIRST
THOUGHT OF IT,
TO THEM IT WAS SOMEBODY
HANDICAPPED WAS GOING TO COME
IN THE HOUSE AND NOBODY
WAS TOO INTERESTED IN IT.
AND I SAID, WELL, TRY IT
AND IF NOBODY LIKES IT,
YOU CAN ALWAYS SAY NO.
IT WAS A GOOD IDEA WHEN I
STARTED AND THEN ONCE
I GOT INTO IT, BEFORE
I GOT MY MATCH,
I WAS JUST HOPING THEY
WOULD LOSE MY FILE
OR WOULDN'T FIND ME A
MATCH OR SOMETHING
BECAUSE IT REALLY
MADE ME NERVOUS.
BUT ONCE YOU START IT,
THERE'S NOTHING AT ALL TO IT,
IT JUST KIND OF GOES
AND YOU CAN QUIT ANY TIME
YOU DON'T LIKE IT.
SO, I THINK IF YOU TRY IT,
IT'S A GREAT THING TO OPEN UP
YOUR HOUSE TO SOMEBODY
WHO DOESN'T HAVE -
BECAUSE THESE ARE MIKE'S
BEST FRIENDS NOW;
THEY'RE HIS FRIENDS.
HE DOESN'T HAVE ANY
OTHER FRIENDS
OUTSIDE OF HIS HOME
AND I THINK
IT'S JUST GREAT
TO TRY IT.

Three kids sit at table and Debbi stands next to them.

Debbi says DRAW ME SOMETHING
NICE, EH?
CAN YOU DRAW ONE
MORE PICTURE FOR US?

Mike says YEAH.
COLOUR!
[laughing]

Debbi says WELL, HE COMES ONCE
EVERY TWO WEEKS
AND HE'S BEEN COMING
NOW FOR TWO YEARS.

The caption changes to "Debbi Beldman."

Debbi continues AND WHEN HE FIRST CAME,
HE WAS VERY SHY AND
VERY NERVOUS AND HE
WAS VERY WITHDRAWN,
SO HE DIDN'T REALLY WANT
TO PLAY WITH THE BOYS.
AND THEN I NOTICED,
THE MORE HE CAME,
HE EVEN WENT AND
LOOKED FOR THE BOYS.
LIKE SAID,
WHERE'S MARK?
I WANT TO SHOW HIM
THIS OR WHERE'S MARK?
HE'S FITTED IN VERY, VERY
WELL, BUT HE ONLY WAS AT HOME
OR AT SCHOOL, SO IT WAS
REALLY STRANGE FOR HIM
TO COME HERE WITH
NO MOM AND DAD
AND PLAY WITH
DAVE AND MARK.
BUT NOW, HE CALLS THEM HIS
BUDDIES AND HE ASKS ME,
I NEED A DRINK, I NEED A
COOKIE AND TALKS TO ME
AND JUST VERY MORE OUTGOING
THAN WHEN HE FIRST
STARTED TO COME.

The caption changes to "Marg Shelton." Marg is in her late thirties, with short curly blond hair. She’s wearing a white pullover.

Marg says MICHAEL, SEE, MICHAEL'S A
LONER AND THE OLDER KIDS
DON'T HAVE A LOT OF
PATIENCE WITH HIM.
AND IT MUST BE OVER THERE
THAT MARK AND DAVID
ARE MORE HIS AGE LEVEL,
THAT HE CAN COMMUNICATE.
AND HE NEEDS
MORE ATTENTION.
I THINK THE INDIVIDUAL
ATTENTION IS WHAT
HE NEEDS MORE OF
AND HE PROBABLY,
MAYBE GETS IT
AT DEBBIE'S.

Debbi says HE HAS A LEARNING
DISABILITY AND HE'S VERY SHY
AND GETS VERY NERVOUS
AT NEW THINGS AND HE LIKES
TO PLAY BY HIMSELF AND
THAT WAS THE MAIN THING
THAT WE WANTED TO DO
IN THE PROGRAM HERE,
WAS GET HIM TO WANT TO
PLAY WITH OTHER PEOPLE
AND IT'S WORKED
FANTASTIC.
LIKE HE DOESN'T, WHEN HE
FIRST CAME, LIKE I SAID,
HE'D GO IN A CORNER
SOMEWHERE WITH A TOY
AND JUST PLAY ALL
BY HIMSELF AND NOW
HE DOESN'T DO IT
ANYMORE AT ALL.
LIKE, HE WANTS TO PLAY
WITH DAVID AND MARK
AND GO OUT AND PLAY IN
THE SWINGS AND STUFF.
I THINK HIS HANDICAP TOOK
A BIT LONGER TO WORK IN,
THAN A PHYSICAL
HANDICAP MAYBE.
BUT, IT'S ALL WORKED
OUT REALLY WELL.

Mike and the kids get out of the house to the swings.

Kieffer says PROBABLY A HOST IN OUR
AREA HAS TO THINK
A LITTLE BIT HARDER
ABOUT EXTRA THINGS
THAT THEY'RE
GOING TO DO.
IF THEY'RE PLANNING
A SPECIAL ACTIVITY,
WE DON'T HAVE THE
FACILITIES HERE FOR THEM
TO GO TO AS THEY DO IN A
CITY, IN AN URBAN SETTING.
SO, PROBABLY WHAT THEY'D
BE DOING IS MORE APT TO BE
WITHIN THEIR HOME AND
WITHIN THEIR FAMILY AND
WITHIN THEIR HOME RATHER
THAN GOING OUT TO SPECIAL
EVENTS ALL THE TIME.

Andrea picks up Holly from her house. Andrea is in her thirties, with shoulder-length curly dark hair. She’s wearing a black raincoat. Holly is en her teens, with short blond hair. She’s wearing a gray jacket and pink trousers.

Andrea says I THINK THE
EXTEND-A-FAMILY PROGRAM
HAS DONE A WONDERFUL JOB
ADVERTISING THE PROGRAM
AND GETTING THE COMMUNITY
AWARE OF THE PROGRAM
AND I THINK THAT'S
SO IMPORTANT.
I KNOW THROUGH A LOT OF
DIFFERENT SOCIAL FUNCTIONS
AND PRESENTATIONS, THEY'VE
BEEN ABLE TO PRESENT
THEIR PROGRAM AND HAVE A
LOT OF THE COMMUNITY PEOPLE
APPROACH THEM WHICH IS
REALLY, REALLY NICE.
I KNOW MORE AND MORE
PEOPLE ARE MORE AWARE
OF THE PROGRAM NOW AND
ARE GETTING INVOLVED
WHICH IS REALLY NICE,
ESPECIALLY IN A RURAL
AREA BECAUSE IT IS
VERY DIFFICULT.
AGAIN, YOU KNOW, IT
DEPENDS ON THE WEATHER
AND IN THE WINTER, IT'S
SOMETIMES QUITE DIFFICULT
FOR HOLLY AND I
TO GET TOGETHER.
OFTEN I SUGGEST THINGS FOR
HOLLY AND I TO DO BUT
IT'S BEEN REALLY NICE OVER
THE LAST YEAR THAT
HOLLY'S BEEN COMING OUT
WITH A LOT OF IDEAS.

Andrea and Holly get into a car.
[car engine starting]

The caption changes to "Don and Reta Kupferschmidt."

Don and Reta stand by a car. Reta is in her forties, with short curly brown hair. She’s wearing a dark blue jacket.

Reta says I THINK IT'S A
REALLY SUPER IDEA.
IT GIVES MOM AND DAD A
BREAK AWAY ON A WEEKEND
OR A FEW HOURS EACH
MONTH AND IT GIVES HOLLY
A FRIEND TO BE WITH.

Don is in his forties, with a moustache and short hair. He’s wearing sunglasses, a cap and a blue jacket.

Don says YEAH I THINK IT'S A
REALLY GREAT THING TOO
BECAUSE LIKE, IT MAKES US
FEEL GOOD TO SEE HOLLY'S
FEELING HAPPY AND EVERY
TIME SHE COMES BACK HOME
FROM BEING WITH
ANDREA THERE,
SHE REALLY HAS ALWAYS
HAS A GREAT TIME, EH.
AND I'M REALLY GLAD TO
SEE THIS EXTEND-A-FAMILY
WORKING - IT'S WORKING
OUT GREAT ANYWAY.

Reta says YEAH, SHE CONSTANTLY TALKS
ABOUT IT ALL THE TIME.

Don says YUP.
SHE ALWAYS TALKS
ABOUT HER TIME
BEING WITH ANDREA AND
THEN SHE ALWAYS TALKS ABOUT
TIMES LOOKING
FORWARD TO GOING OUT
WITH ANDREA AGAIN.
YOU KNOW, SHE REALLY,
REALLY LIKES IT.

Andrea and Holly prepare tea in a kitchen.

Andrea says YOU KNOW, I THINK OUR
FRIENDSHIP HAS REALLY
DEVELOPED OVER THE LAST
TWO-AND-A-HALF YEARS, AND
I THINK NOW I DON'T EVEN
THINK ABOUT IT BEING AS
PART OF EXTEND-A-FAMILY.
I OFTEN HAVE TO
REMIND MYSELF,
HOLLY HAS BECOME
MORE OF A FRIEND.
YOU SPEND A LOT
OF TIME OUTSIDE,
I GUESS IT DEPENDS ON
THE SEASON AND THAT.
WE'VE DONE SOME
SKIING.
USUALLY WE HAVE
TO SKI IN HERE,
WE'VE DONE A
LOT OF HIKING.
I GUESS IT REALLY
DEPENDS ON THE WEATHER.
WE'VE DONE, AROUND
HALLOWEEN AND THAT TIME,
WE DO A LOT OF
WALKING AND HIKING.
IN THE SUMMER TIME, WE
HAVEN'T REALLY HAD A CHANCE
TO GET UP TO THE
LAKE A LOT BUT,
THIS SUMMER, HOLLY AND I
HAD A CHANCE TO SPEND
SOME TIME TOGETHER AT THE
COTTAGE AND I HAD OTHER
KIDS WITH ME
AT THAT TIME.
SO IT WAS KIND OF
NICE FOR HOLLY.

Now, Andrea sits in her living room.

The caption changes to "Andrea Lawrence."

Andrea says I'VE BECOME
QUITE SURPRISED,
THE LAST LITTLE WHILE, HOW
MY RELATIONSHIP WITH HOLLY
HAS BECOME QUITE A NATURAL
FRIENDSHIP, YOU KNOW,
IT WOULDN'T BE VERY
NATURAL FOR MYSELF TO HAVE
A FRIEND HOLLY'S AGE, BUT
I THINK IT'S BECOME
QUITE COMFORTABLE, THE
FRIENDSHIP WE HAVE.
SOMETIMES I THINK IT'S
LIKE A LITTLE SISTER AND
SOMETIMES LIKE A FRIEND,
SOME OF THINGS WE DO.
AND I'VE BEEN REALLY
SURPRISED AND QUITE HAPPY
WITH THE WAY THINGS HAVE
NATURALLY FALLEN INTO PLACE.

Andrea and Holly play a game.

Andrea says YOU THINK YOU'RE
GOING TO GET IT?
HERE WE GO.
WHO DID CHARLES ROBB MARRY
ON DECEMBER, 9TH 1967?
DO YOU KNOW WHO HE IS?

Holly says NO.

Andrea says WANT TO GUESS
WHO HE MARRIED?

Holly says NO.

Christie says I THINK ONE OF THE MAIN
AIMS OF EXTEND-A-FAMILY,
I GUESS, BASICALLY
WE HAVE THREE AIMS:
ONE IS TO PROVIDE A WARM
AND LOVING ENVIRONMENT TO
GIVE THE CHILD WITH A
HANDICAP AN OPPORTUNITY
TO SOCIALIZE OUTSIDE
OF HIS FAMILY.
THIS IS IN TURN
GIVES THE PARENTS
OF THE HANDICAPPED CHILD A
BIT OF PARENTAL RELIEF.
AND THIRDLY, AND I THINK,
PROBABLY MOST IMPORTANT,
IS THE RIPPLE EFFECT THAT
THE VISITATIONS DO HAVE
IN THE COMMUNITY AND
PEOPLE BECOME MORE AWARE
OF CHILDREN WITH HANDICAPS,
THEY LEARN TO APPRECIATE THEM
AS INDIVIDUALS AND LEARN
THEIR OWN NEEDS AND DESIRES.
AND THAT THEY DO
HAVE A RIGHT TO LIVE
AND PARTICIPATE IN
THEIR COMMUNITIES.
AND THE MORE PEOPLE
THAT KNOW THEM,
THE EASIER
THIS BECOMES.

The caption changes to "Jacqueline Esler." Jacqueline is in her mid-thirties, with short brown hair and bangs. She’s wearing a light blue blouse.

Jacqueline says I GOT IN TOUCH WITH
EXTEND-A-FAMILY THROUGH
WOMEN'S COLLEGE HOSPITAL,
THROUGH CHRISTOPHER'S
PHYSIOTHERAPIST WHO'S
FAMILIAR WITH ALL KINDS
OF DIFFERENT RESOURCES.
THEY ASK YOU WHAT KIND
OF FAMILY, IDEALLY,
YOU'D LIKE HIM TO
BE PLACED WITH.
I PREFERRED
SOMEONE WITH OLDER -
LIKE GRANDPARENTS INVOLVED
BUT WE DIDN'T GET THAT.
[laughing]
THAT'S ALL RIGHT, BECAUSE HE
GOT ANOTHER LITTLE GIRL
TO PLAY WITH WHO'S
CLOSE TO HIS AGE.
IT GIVES ME SPARE TIME
WHICH IS SOMETHING THAT
IS REALLY VALUABLE FOR ME,
WHICH I GET VERY LITTLE OF.
AND IT'S NICE TO GET
HIM INTEGRATED
WITH NON-DISABLED CHILDREN
IN A SOCIAL SETTING.
HE LOVES GOING, HE LOVES
PLAYING WITH OTHER
CHILDREN AND I THINK THEY
ACCEPT HIM REALLY WELL
BECAUSE LORENZO'S
DISABLED.
THEY'RE FAMILIAR WITH
DEALING WITH DISABLED PEOPLE.

The caption changes to "Lorenzo and Catherine Ciufo."

Catherine and Lorenzo sit on a couch. Catherine is in her early thirties, with short curly dark brown hair. She’s wearing a patterned pullover and gray trousers.

Catherine says I FOUND OUT ABOUT
EXTEND-A-FAMILY FROM
A POSTER IN A LIBRARY AND
JUST THOUGHT IT WOULD BE
A GOOD THING TO
BE INVOLVED IN.
AND CHRIS STARTED COMING
IN APRIL AND WOULD COME FOR,
I THINK AT THAT TIME,
WOULD COME FOR JUST ABOUT
A 20-MINUTE VISIT
AND FROM THERE,
HE WOULD COME EVERY MONTH
AND VISIT FOR THREE
OR FOUR OR FIVE HOURS,
DEPENDING ON WHAT WENT
WELL JACKIE OR WITH US.
WHEN HE FIRST USED
TO COME, OF COURSE,
THEY WERE BOTH A BIT
STRANGE WITH EACH OTHER.
AND NATALIE WOULD FIND IT
HARD TO SHARE HER TOYS AND
STUFF LIKE THAT, BUT CHRIS
WAS REALLY STUBBORN AND
REALLY MADE HIS PLACE
KNOWN, SORT OF THING.
AND IF HE WANTED A TOY, HE
WOULD STRUGGLE TO GET IT
AND THIS AND THAT.
SINCE HE'S COME
MORE AND MORE,
IT'S LIKE WHEN
JACKIE LEAVES,
AT FIRST HE WOULD
CRY A LOT AND NOW
HE HARDLY
CRIES AT ALL.
HE COMES TO
US EASIER,
HE'S MORE RELAXED
WHEN HE EATS WITH US.
IF HE WANTS, LIKE, ONE
TIME IN THE SUMMER WE WERE
ON A PICNIC AND HE WANTED
MORE GRAPES AND HE
MAKES IT KNOWN THAT - SO THAT,
IS A REAL ADVANTAGE TOO.
HE SORT OF, IN HIS WAY,
TELLS YOU WHAT HE NEEDS.

Chris and Jackie play on the ground building a structure. Chris is five years old with curly black hair. He’s wearing glasses and a pullover. Jackie is four years old with short blond hair. She’s wearing a blue jumpsuit over a red long-sleeve shirt and red stockings.

Chris says ACHOO!

Catherine says YOU OKAY?

Jackie says OH, HE BREAKED
THIS CASTLE!

Catherine says OH, IT'S EASY
TO BUILD.
ARE YOU OKAY?

Chris says YEAH.

Catherine says YOU HAD A SNEEZE, THERE,
EH, GOD BLESS YOU.

Chris says MOMMY.

Catherine says IT'S OKAY.

Jackie says IT'S OKAY
NOW, MOMMY.

Catherine says YOU THINK
CHRIS IS OKAY?

Jackie says YEAH.

Catherine says YEAH.

Joan says PERHAPS YOU UNDERSTAND
CHRISTOPHER'S PROBLEMS
BETTER THAN A
LOT OF PEOPLE.

Lorenzo is in his twenties, with a beard and brown hair. He’s wearing a blue T-shirt.

Lorenzo says I DO BECAUSE I
MYSELF AM DISABLED.
I UNDERSTAND WHAT HE'S GOING
THROUGH; AND SO, IN WAYS,
I PROBABLY MIGHT BE ABLE
TO HELP HIM WITH STUFF.
THAT NORMAL PEOPLE
MIGHT NOT BE ABLE TO,
IN SOCIAL WAYS.
I'M NOT SAYING
THAT I CAN'T,
BUT MAYBE I MIGHT BE
ABLE TO IN CERTAIN WAYS.

Catherine says CHRIS, DO YOU WANT TO
HELP US MAKE A TRAIN?

Chris says YEA, CHOO-CHOO!

Catherine says WE'RE GREAT AT
MAKING TRAINS.
WHERE'S THE
OTHER PART?

Back in the interview, Catherine says IT'S JUST GOOD THAT
THEY'RE FRIENDS,
THAT THEY GET ALONG
WELL AND I FOUND IT
REALLY TOUCHING WHEN THEY
WOULD FIRST PLAY TOGETHER.
LIKE NOW IT'S JUST
A NATURAL THING
BUT YOU KNOW, THEY
GET ALONG WELL.

Jackie says I GOT SOME.

Catherine says YEAH, WE CAN
MAKE DO, SURE.

Jackie says YEAH.

Chris says CHOO-CHOO.

Lorenzo says THE GOOD THING
THAT'S HAPPENED,
WHICH DOES HELP KIDS WHO
ARE HANDICAPPED TELL
AND THEN THEY'RE
ONE STEP AHEAD.

Christie says THE COORDINATORS FOLLOW
VERY CLOSELY THE MATCH
THAT THEY MAKE FOR
THE FIRST YEAR
THAT THESE TWO
FAMILIES ARE TOGETHER.
AND SHE WILL PHONE
ON A REGULAR BASIS,
BOTH THE HOST FAMILY AND
THE NATURAL FAMILY,
JUST TO KEEP ON
TOP OF THINGS,
TO MAKE SURE THAT
THINGS ARE GOING WELL.
AND IF THERE
IS A MISMATCH,
WHICH WE HAVE HAD, WE
WILL, FIRST OF ALL,
TRY TO IRON IT OUT, FIND
OUT WHAT THE PROBLEM IS
AND IF IT SEEMS
INSOLVABLE,
THEN WE'LL LOOK FOR
ANOTHER HOST FAMILY
FOR THAT CHILD.

Kieffer says I WOULD SAY THAT PROBABLY
HALF OUR HOSTS AND HALF
OF OUR NATURAL FAMILIES ARE
LIVING ON FARMS NOW ALREADY.
PROBABLY IF THEIR MATCH
IS PROBABLY GOING TO BE -
IF THEY'RE
LIVING ON A FARM,
THEY'RE PROBABLY GOING TO
BE MATCHED WITH SOMEONE
ON A FARM TOO BECAUSE
OF DISTANCE WISE.
SO, I WOULD SAY FOR
SOME OF OUR HANDICAPPED
INDIVIDUALS, THEY ARE
GOING TO A FARM SETTING.
BUT IT MAYBE ISN'T A
TOTALLY NEW EXPERIENCE FOR
THEM BECAUSE PERHAPS THEY
HAVE RELATIVES OR SOMEONE
ELSE THAT THEY KNOW
AS A FAMILY FRIEND
WHO ALREADY IS
IN FARMING.

The caption changes to "Wendy Raynard." Wendy is in her thirties, with curly blond hair. She’s wearing a purple pullover and long earrings.

Wendy says I THINK THEY
CALL IT PAIRING,
PAIRING UP WHAT THEY CLASS
AS A HANDICAP PERSON
WITH A NORMAL FAMILY,
WHICH WE THOUGHT WAS
PRETTY FUNNY BECAUSE -
[laughing]
THESE KIDS, YOU KNOW...
BUT, THE ONLY STIPULATION
I SAID WAS THAT SOMEONE
FAIRLY LOCAL BECAUSE YOU
DON'T WANT TO HAVE
TO DRIVE TOO FAR
IN THE WINTERS.
THAT WAS THE ONLY
THING I SAID.
IT DIDN'T MUCH MATTER
IF THEY WERE MENTALLY
OR PHYSICALLY
HANDICAPPED.
I EXPLAINED IT TO THEM,
BEFORE WE EVEN MET ANGELA.
I SAID SOMETHING ABOUT,
WE'RE GOING TO BE GETTING -
WE'RE GOING TO HAVE A NEW
FRIEND COMING TO THE HOUSE
AND THEY JUST ACCEPTED IT
RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING.
I DIDN'T REALLY HAVE
TO EXPLAIN ANYTHING.
KIDS THAT AGE, THEY'RE NOT
WORRIED ABOUT THINGS LIKE THAT.
THEY WERE EXCITED THOUGH.

The caption changes to "Steven and Marlene Donaldson."

Marlene and Steven sit on a couch. Marlene is in her early thirties, with short dark hair. She’s wearing a white and pink sweater.

Marlene says IT'S THROUGH KATHY
KIEFFER IN WALKERTON.
THAT'S HOW WE GOT
STARTED WITH IT.
AND IT'S REALLY HELPING
ANGELA INTERACT
WITH OTHER CHILDREN,
THAT'S WHAT WE FIND.
AND TO GET HER
OUT OF THE HOUSE.

Steven is in his thirties, with a beard and short brown hair. He’s wearing a plaid shirt.

Steven says YEAH, SHE'S OPENED UP A
LOT MORE WHEN SHE'S THERE
WITH THE OTHER FAMILIES
AND HELPED HER A LOT
BEFORE SHE STARTED SCHOOL.

The caption changes to "Bill Raynard." Bill is in his forties, with a brown goatee and receding hair. He’s wearing glasses and a dark red zip jacket.

Bill says WELL, I WOULD HOPE THAT
FROM ANGELA'S POSITION
THAT SHE WOULD FEEL AN
ACCEPTANCE BY OTHER PEOPLE
AND GIVE HER A CHANCE TO
GET OUT OF HER OWN HOME
ENVIRONMENT AND JUST SORT
OF FEEL HER WAY AROUND
A LITTLE BIT, IN A STRANGE
ENVIRONMENT AND FEEL
MORE COMFORTABLE
THEN IN THE NEXT
STRANGE ENVIRONMENT
SHE'S IN.
FOR MY OWN KIDS, I WOULD
HOPE THAT IT WOULD MAKE
THEM MORE UNDERSTANDING
AND PATIENT WITH PEOPLE
AND EASIER TO GET ALONG
WITH AND MAKE THEM JUST
BE ABLE TO GET ALONG WITH
OTHER PEOPLE BETTER.

Marlene sits on a couch with four children and Angela. One of the kids reads a book.

Marlene says BILL AND WENDY, THEY'VE
REALLY HELPED US OUT A LOT.
SHE ALWAYS TALKS
ABOUT COMING HERE SO,
SHE REALLY LIKES THE PLACE
AND SHE LIKES THE PEOPLE.

A boy reads WENT INTO THE HOUSE;
HE STOOD ON HIS HEAD.

Wendy says OVER THE LAST TWO YEARS,
LIKE YOU CAN REALLY SEE
A BIG CHANGE IN ANGELA.
WHEN SHE FIRST
CAME, THERE WAS A...
SHE WAS KIND OF STUBBORN
AND SHE WOULDN'T TALK.
AND I DIDN'T TRY TO TREAT
HER ANY DIFFERENTLY,
WHICH MADE IT A BIT
HARDER ON HER MAYBE THAN,
YOU KNOW, I
SHOULD'VE BEEN.
BUT, SHE CAME ALONG REALLY
FAST AND SHE SEEMS
TO REALLY LIKE IT HERE.

Kieffer says I THINK THAT MOST OF OUR
FAMILIES THAT ARE HOSTING
FIND THAT IT'S A VERY
EASY TYPE OF THING
TO BE INVOLVED WITH.
IT'S A NATURAL EXPERIENCE,
IT'S LIKE HAVING ANY OTHER
FRIEND INTO THE FAMILY FOR
THEIR CHILDREN TO PLAY WITH.

Joan says ING WANG ARRIVES AT THE
ART GALLERY OF ONTARIO
WITH DAVID AND
NANCY WEN.

David pushes Ing’s wheelchair to get into a building. David is in his thirties with black hair. He’s wearing glasses, a blue coat and gloves.

David says WE WERE FIRST INTRODUCED
TO EXTEND-A-FAMILY,
THEY HAVE AN AUDIO-VISUAL
PRESENTATION BASICALLY
GIVING THE OUTLINE OF
EXTEND-A-FAMILY AND ONCE
YOU'VE AGREED, THERE'S
SOME FORMS TO SIGN
AND SO FORTH.
THEY DO PROVIDE A BOOKLET -
ACTUALLY IT WAS A BOOK
THAT LISTS PLACES LIKE THE
ART GALLERY OF ONTARIO
AND OTHER PLACES THAT HAVE
WHEELCHAIR ACCESS, RAMPS,
ELEVATORS AND SO FORTH.
SO, IT'S A VERY
HANDY SOURCE GUIDE
WHEN YOU'RE
PLANNING OUTINGS.

The caption changes to "Priscilla Ratcliffe. Art Gallery of Ontario." Priscilla stands in an art gallery. She’s in her thirties, with short blond hair and bangs. She’s wearing a long dark blue dress with a white collar and a black ribbon.

Priscilla says WELL, WHEN THE SECOND-STAGE
EXPANSION WAS BUILT
IN THE '70s, FACILITIES
FOR DISABLED PEOPLE
WERE CERTAINLY
CONSIDERED AT THAT TIME.
WE BUILT RAMPS FROM THE
EAST LOBBY SO PEOPLE
COULD ENTER WITH
WHEELCHAIRS.
WE HAVE A VEHICULAR
ACCESS RAMP
THROUGH THE
LOWER LOBBY.
WE ALSO CREATED THE RAMPS,
WHICH YOU SEE HERE,
INSIDE TO MAKE IT EASIER
FOR PEOPLE TO MANEUVER
THROUGHOUT THE BUILDING.
WELL, WITH OUR
STAGE-THREE EXPANSION
WHICH WILL BE HAPPENING
IN A FEW YEARS,
WE PLAN TO MAKE
OUR NEW BUILDING,
WHICH WILL BE OFF BEVERLY
STREET, FULLY ACCESSIBLE.
AND AT THAT TIME, WE WILL
ALSO BE ABLE TO ENTERTAIN
SOME MAJOR RENOVATIONS WITH
THE EXISTING BUILDING.
FOR EXAMPLE, THE ENTRANCE
TO THE GALLERY WILL BE
ONE ENTRANCE NOW FOR
ALL OF OUR VISITORS,
INCLUDING
DISABLED PEOPLE.
THEY WILL NOT HAVE TO
BE SEGREGATED OFF
TO THE EAST LOBBY.
WE WILL HAVE AUTOMATIC
DOORS WHICH WILL ALLOW
THEM ACCESS BY
THEMSELVES.
ON OUR COMMITTEE, WE HAVE
A REPRESENTATIVE FROM
THE CITY OF TORONTO PLANNING
DEPARTMENT, LARRY HODGSON,
WHO HIMSELF IS A
WHEELCHAIR USER.
AND HE'S BEEN VERY INSTRUMENTAL
IN HELPING US UNDERSTAND
THE NEEDS AND THE PROBLEMS
THAT DISABLED PEOPLE ENCOUNTER.
AND ALSO, HE HIMSELF IS
VERY INTERESTED IN ART.
AND HE HAS SORT OF OPENED
OUR EYES TO THE FACT THAT
THERE IS A LARGE COMMUNITY
OF PEOPLE OUT THERE
INTERESTED IN OUR PRODUCT.
BUT IN THE PAST, THEY HAVE
BEEN IGNORED IN TERMS
OF THEIR NEEDS IN NOT ONLY
ACCESSING INTO THE BUILDING,
BUT, WITHIN THE GALLERY
ITSELF AND PARTICIPATING
IN OUR PROGRAMS AND
ACTIVITIES.

David, Ing and Nancy visit the gallery.

Nancy says THERE'S WHAT THE PRIEST
WEARS, VESTMENTS.

Ing says LOOK AT THE TEXTURE
THERE, THE DETAIL.

The caption changes to "Ing Wang, David and Nancy Wen."

Ing is in her teens with short black hair. She sits in a wheelchair. She’s wearing glasses, a yellow sweater and blue trousers. Nancy sits next to her. Nancy is in her thirties, with shirt light brown hair. She’s wearing a gray patterned pullover, blue jeans and glasses.

Nancy says HOW WE GOT TOGETHER
INITIALLY WAS
THE ADVERTISEMENT IN
THE WARD 9 NEWS FOR
EXTEND-A-FAMILY.
IT TWIGGED OUR INTEREST SO
WE MADE THE PHONE CALL
AND FROM THERE, THE
BALL STARTED TO ROLL
AND WE HAD TO SPECIFY
BASIC THINGS, SUCH AS GIRL
OR BOY THAT WE WERE
INTERESTED IN, AGE BRACKET,
INTERESTS THAT WE HAD SO
THAT THEY COULD MATCH US
UP WITH A CHILD.
THEN, IT WAS MEETING ING,
HER FAMILY AND PASSING
THE LIFTING-ING-IN-AND-OUT-
OF-THE-WHEELCHAIR TEST
WITHOUT BASHING HER HEAD
INTO WALLS OR DROPPING HER.
WE PASSED THAT TEST
AND FROM THERE,
WE'VE STARTED GOING OUT TO
OUR SWIMMING ONCE A WEEK
ON TUESDAY NIGHTS.

Ing says AND THEN IT JUST STARTED
TO GROW AND GROW.
THEY TAKE ME OUT
THREE TIMES A WEEK,
WELL NOT THREE TIMES A
WEEK, FOR THREE WEEKS,
THEY TAKE ME FOR
SWIMMING LESSON AND THEN
IT JUST STARTED GROWING.
WE TALK ABOUT ALL SORTS
OF THINGS IN THE CAR;
BRUCE SPRINGSTEEN,
HUMAN LEAGUE, ANYTHING,
ANYTHING, ANYTHING,
SCHOOL, WORK,
YOUR BASIC CHIT-CHAT.
[chuckling]

David says NOT MUCH MORE TO ADD
TO THIS, I GUESS.
UH, I GUESS, WHEN
WE FIRST STARTED,
IT WAS JUST TO TAKE HER
SWIMMING AND WE DIDN'T KNOW
ANYTHING ABOUT HER OR
HER FAMILY AND SO FORTH.
WE THOUGHT JUST
TO DO SWIMMING.
AFTER A WHILE, IT GREW
TO A POINT WHERE WE WERE
LOOKING FORWARD TO SEEING
HER ONCE A WEEK OR
WHENEVER WE HAD TIME AND
THEN WE STARTED COMING UP
WITH IDEAS THAT SHE MIGHT
BE INTERESTED IN SEEING
AND SHE MIGHT BE
INTERESTED IN GOING TO.
AND IT GAVE US AN EXCUSE
ALSO TO GO OUT AND SEE
THESE THINGS AS WELL.
SO, IT HAS PROGRESSED
TO THIS POINT WHERE WE,
NOT ALWAYS, BUT
OCCASIONALLY,
IF WE PLAN SOMEWHERE WE
ALWAYS HAVE HER AT THE BACK
OF OUR MINDS IF SHE'D BE
INTERESTED IN GOING OR NOT.

Nancy says BECAUSE WE DON'T HAVE
CHILDREN AND ACTUALLY,
NONE OF OUR FRIENDS HAVE
CHILDREN AT THE MOMENT,
AND WE'RE NOT IN TOUCH
WITH A LOT OF TEENAGERS,
SHE'S KEPT US IN LINE AND
ON TOP OF THE LATEST
IN FADS, THE
LATEST IN MUSIC,
UP TO DATE ON MOVIES.
SHE KEEPS US IN TOUCH
AND ON THE BALL.

Nancy laughs.

Ing says THEY DON'T SAY, WELL, YOU
CAN'T DO THIS BECAUSE
YOU'RE 13 YEARS OLD OR
YOU CAN'T SAY THIS BECAUSE
YOU'RE 13 YEARS OLD,
OR, YOU KNOW,
WHEN I WAS 13 YEARS OLD
I DIDN'T DO THIS,
I DIDN'T DO THAT,
I DON'T KNOW THIS,
AND I LIKE THAT.
THEY TREAT ME LIKE
A PERSON NOT LIKE A
BRAINLESS 13 YEAR OLD.
[laughing]
AND I RESPECT
THEM FOR THAT.

Christie says I GUESS MY PERSONAL
INVOLVEMENT IS TWO-PRONG.
FIRSTLY, I HAVE A SON,
DAVID, WHO'S 13 YEARS OLD,
WHO HAS DOWNS SYNDROME.
AND HE HAS BEEN INVOLVED
WITH EXTEND-A-FAMILY
FOR SEVEN YEARS,
VISITING A HOST FAMILY
WHO LIVE JUST
DOWN THE STREET,
SO IT'S BEEN VERY
HANDY FOR US.
AND SECONDLY, I HAVE BEEN
INVOLVED ON THE BOARD
OF EXTEND-A-FAMILY FOR A
NUMBER OF YEARS AS WELL.
DAVID HAS BEEN PLAYING
HOCKEY FOR FIVE YEARS,
I GUESS IT IS NOW.
AND IT'S ONE OF THE
MOST IMPORTANT THINGS
IN HIS LIFE, I THINK.
AS I SAID, HIS HOST FAMILY
DOES LIVE JUST DOWN
THE STREET AND HE WOULD
VERY OFTEN DISAPPEAR
FROM OUR OWN YARD AND WE'D
FIND HIM DOWN THE STREET
PLAYING BALL-HOCKEY.
THIS, INITIALLY, PRESENTED
A BIT OF A PROBLEM
WITH THE CHILDREN WHO
ARE ALREADY PLAYING
BALL-HOCKEY 'CAUSE
THEY'D SAY, HEY,
THAT KID'S NOT
PLAYING WITH US.
BUT THE SON OF OUR
HOST FAMILY SAID,
DAVID IS PLAYING AND
IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT,
YOU CAN GO HOME.
SO THOSE KIDS SOON LEARNED
TO ACCEPT DAVID AS PART
OF THE TEAMS AND THE HOST
FAMILY WOULD OFTEN TAKE
DAVID TO WATCH THEIR
TWO BOYS PLAY HOCKEY.
AND HE JUST BECAME VERY,
VERY INTERESTED AND AS
HE SKATED HIMSELF, WE DECIDED
IT WAS A NATURAL EXTENSION
TO GET HIM INVOLVED IN A
COMMUNITY HOCKEY LEAGUE.

A family takes David to play hockey. David and the rest of the team get ready in the dressing room.

The caption changes to "Paul Raino." Paul is in his forties, clean-shaven with dark hair. He’s wearing a black beret and a blue jacket.

Paul says DAVID IS A FINE,
YOUNG FELLA.
HE IS TREATED ON
OUR TEAM THE SAME
AS ANY OTHER CHILD
IS TREATED.
HE'S PART OF THE
TEAM; IN FACT,
I THINK THAT THE ENTHUSIASM
THAT HE'S BROUGHT
TO THE REST OF THE
CLUB IS A REAL BENEFIT
TO ALL THE PLAYERS ON THE
TEAM AND IT'S A PLEASURE.
IT'S FUN.

A man says I THINK THE OVERALL
APPROACH TO EXTEND-A-FAMILY
SHOULD BE ONE OF ACCEPTANCE
AND IT SHOULD GIVE BOTH
PARTIES AN OPPORTUNITY
TO GROW AND BECOME
BETTER HUMAN BEINGS
FOR THEIR EXPERIENCE.

[playful shouting]
The kids play a hockey match.

The end credits roll.

Producer/Director, Joan Reed-Olsen.

A production of TVOntario. Copyright 1987, The Ontario Educational Communications Authority.

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